Comments on: Tough (Question) Tuesday: What aren’t you being nice to yourself about, & how you gonna start?

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 20:18:24 +0000

@Allysa – Isn’t it amazing when a boozy old guy is nicer to you than you are to yourself? Not to get all Stewart Smalley on you, but maybe it’s worthwhile to come up with a mantra for you to say to yourself when you find you’re being a bully to you. You can start with “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, & gosh darn it, people like me!”

By: Allysa

Allysa — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:53:38 +0000

The other day a intoxicated elderly man gave me a compliment. He was nicer to me than I am to me. I need to constantly tell myself people like me, I am not hideous, or stupid, or wasting my life. OY VEY! it is not easy to live inside our heads.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:40:46 +0000

Sorry I was so late to join the party! Just one of those days – oy vey!

As for me, I’m super mean in allowing myself to take my Me Time. Why is it so tough to practice what I preach? When I’m a full-time coach I want to have Me Time every day – not just once a week – so I think I’ll start by giving myself just 15 minutes of it every day. And I’ll start by saying, “Everything will still be here in 15 minutes. This time is a gift to you.” Aw, that’s nice!

@Unicorns – I love that your hobo disaster is someone else’s rockstar. That’s what makes the world go ’round! But I didn’t hear how you’re gonna address your Mentally-Ill Bipolar Asshole Vampire. How you gonna make him stop?

@Carmen – Me too, me too! Any way to think of a mantra that you can say to yourself when you’re moving at too quickly a pace?

@Tiffany – I think I wrote that in my last newsletter! I love being quoted back to myself And I’ll take a button, please.

By: tiffany

tiffany — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 17:05:35 +0000

I read somewhere recently that you should look at yourself from your friend’s perspectives to figure out why they like hanging out with you {perhaps you wrote that?}, and I think that is such good advice.

I am definitely my biggest critic, but I think I need a new job: President of the We Love Fanny Fan Club! Shall I have buttons made?

By: Carmen

Carmen — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:35:27 +0000

I couldn’t list it all if I tried. I’m very hard on myself. The biggest offender is my to-do list. I’m so mean to myself about all of the things I “should” be doing, or “should have” already finished.

I need to give myself permission to breathe, slow down, enjoy the process and take one thing at a time.

By: Unicorns For Socialism

Unicorns For Socialism — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:14:05 +0000

This is a tricky one, because my own self-perception is often so different from how other people perceive me. It’s hard to know who’s “right.”

Like when I roll into work with messy hair, crazy crumpled clothes, big sunglasses (cuz I forgot my eyedrops!) and no makeup (cuz I ran out of time!), and I’m thinking “I look like a hobo disaster!” but all my coworkers say “wow, you look like a rockstar!” Which is a nice way of saying “hobo disaster,” but more artsy, I think.

Anyway. Long story short: I have a Mentally-Ill Asshole Vampire in my head, but I think he’s kinda bipolar, because sometimes he doles out outrageous (and totally undeserved) compliments, too. And for some reason he’s a “he.” But that’s probably a whole ‘nother issue.