Yes (Wo)Man


Munchausen by Proxy

Zooey Deschanel, in pink, with the rest of Munchausen by Proxy in “Yes Man

“The world’s a playground. You know that when you are a kid, but somewhere along the way everyone forgets it.” – Allison in Yes Man

Last week, I finally got to see Yes Man, the romantic comedy starring Jim Carrey.  I remember the hulabaloo around the coaching community when this movie came out, praising it for the message it sent: say Yes to everything! Yes to party invites from the nerdy boss! Yes to mail-order wives! Yes to giving homeless men rides to deserted parks at night! Personal safety aside, I know that the overall message resonated with a lot of people. While I’m still someone who’s learning how to say “No” – without feeling like I’m disappointing the world/being an asshole – what I got from the movie is to say “Yes” to something new: to expand your horizons, meet new people, do something scary.

But there was another message in that movie that I haven’t heard anyone talk about, & that’s the part that still has me thinking two weeks later: the life that Zooey Deschanel’s character, Allison, created for herself. Every morning at 6a, Allion heads a running photography group for “photographers who want to get more exercise”. Then, most nights, she performs as the lead singer of Munchausen by Proxy, whose shows always begin with Allison greeting everyone in the audience by name – since the only people that come see the band are people the band knows personally. She then sings (awesome) songs with lyrics like “Don’t call me past 11pm, it won’t happen again. Happened once, it happened twice, it happened three times, maybe four times, maybe five times, maybe, maybe it happened six times, but it won’t happen seven times” & dons at least a half-dozen (but not seven) sparkly, colorful, funnily crazy costumes (do you see the photo above? They’re chickens, people!).

At one point, Jim Carrey’s character asks Allison why she sings with the band, & why she takes her photographs. Isn’t she looking for fame? Doesn’t she want her band to break through? And I remember her looking at him partly like he was nuts, and partly like he was a child. She explained that she sings with her band because she loves singing, loves performing, loves changing her costume a half dozen times & putting on a show for her friends. And even though most of her running club photographs are out of focus, she regales herself as an expert on blurry photography.

So do ya think that you can cook your passions into one big pot & make a career? Do all of your hobbies need to be money-makers, or is there something that you can do just for the love of it? If you’re missing something in your life, like more exercise, is there a way to do it so that it doesn’t feel like a chore? Think outside the box & see where your imagination takes you – the more ridiculous the better. Take your inspiration from Allison & her songs about late-night booty calls. Or pick up Career Renegades by Jonathan Fields & read about people like Ann Rea, an office drone who was determined to leave her depressing job to be a painter but didn’t want to give up her lifestyle. Living in the Napa Valley, she looked around, opened her eyes, & realized she could partner up with wineries to paint their vineyards, & then sell her works in their gift shop. Not only did she get a guaranteed sale for each painting she painted, but it lead to private commissions, large-scale commission work, displays, notecards, & wine bottle labels!

Obviously, this movie is in Ideal World and we never know how Allison actually, um, puts a roof over her head & adorable vintage clothes on her person. But just think about adding a pinch of hobby A and a dash of goal B and a swirl of passion C, and making that into your life. Think of what you love to do, and a need that’s out there, & make your own sandwich. Allison took everyone’s goal of “getting more exercise” & paired it with her passion of photography, & created a running photography class. She has her nights free for singing & performing, just for the love of it. She might be a freakin’ garbage woman during the day, but you’d never know it from the way she lives her life – by her passions.

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14 Responses to “Yes (Wo)Man”

  1. NicoleJButler Says:

    I love this post sooooo much. Happiness for happiness’ sake is just fine and “amateur” should not be a bad word!

    I’ve never seen this movie but your description of Deschanel’s character cracks me up.

    More power to her.
    (and you!)

  2. admin Says:

    I think you’d love it, Nicole. It’s a real cute movie overall, but I have a feeling that you’ll love Allison too! Can you imagine this country if everyone just put their own career together from the pieces that they love? And that’s “the norm”? I can’t imagine it, but I can hope for it!

  3. Laura Gaskill Says:

    Okay, I am adding this to my netflix queue on your recommendation, lady! That, and I must see Zooey Deschanel in a chicken suit :)

  4. admin Says:

    She has oh so many great costumes – one right after the other. Just watch in when you’re in the mood for something sweet/silly/fun. I promise you won’t regret it, Laura!

  5. Lisa Hebden Says:

    I loved this movie, not because it was particularly clever, but because of the YES message and because of the character of Allison. The photography running group still makes me laugh out loud. Now I want to see it again, just for a refresher.

  6. Lisa Hebden Says:

    FYI, pretty lady, your blog ROCKS. I haven’t had a ton of time since BYW e-class to look at blogs or work on mine, but you’ve really got it figured out. Well done! It’s super-inspiring, and I’ll be checking in more often. Loved the Oprah sketch, by the way.

  7. admin Says:

    I wholeheartedly agree about the movie, Lisa. It was cute enough & perfect to watch on a day when you want something sweet/silly, but Zooey’s character kept the wheels turning for me long after the movie ended. Love!

    And thanks super much for your kind words about my blog & being pretty (blush). I really appreciate it, Lisa – it means so much! And please know that I drop into yours as well, & am always blown away by your art. I’ll keep visiting, & wish you tons of continued success!

  8. K. A. Laity Says:

    I have a new favourite band! Munchausen by Proxy is a great concept and though I’m not a big Carrey fan, I loved seeing the clips.

    This is something I have railed about for ages: the professionalisation of music and art. People think that if they’re not “good enough” to be a major success, it’s not worth doing. It *is* worth doing because creating is such a joy. People would be so much happier if they were saying yes to the creative urges inside. So what if no one else enjoys it – or you can address your entire audience by name! – you will love it.

    One of the things the internet is helping to bring back is that DIY joyfulness. A blog costs nothing but your time and you never know what friends you may find because of it!

  9. admin Says:

    Aren’t they great? There are 4 songs by them on the soundtrack, but I wish there was more! If you like Zooey’s voice, I highly recommend “She & Him”, the band she’s in with M.Ward. Their debut album is in constant rotation in my house! And “ditto” & “amen” to the rest of your comment, K.A.! I love seeing adults doing something just for the love of it. It’s a rarity, that’s for sure!

  10. K. A. Laity Says:

    Thanks for the recommendation. I will definitely have to check them out. In fact I think I might brave the Carrey factor just to see Munchausen by Proxy (which is just the funniest, cleverest name, too). I posted the video to my Facebook page and said this was the kind of band I need to start and one of my colleagues said if I could find the seahorse hats she would definitely be in. Excellent!

  11. admin Says:

    I hope she’s serious, K.A.: http://is.gd/2lc8t

  12. K. A. Laity Says:

    AH HA HA HAHA! OMG — I have to send her this link at once and tune my Hello Kitty guitar and get the guitary keyboard out of the closet. I knew there was a reason I couldn’t bring myself to part with it. LOL!

  13. admin Says:

    There better be a video, K.A.! And tell your friend I’m sorry :)

  14. geekylocker Says:

    i tot dat I was the only one who gets ‘affected’ by the quotes from Allison saying ‘the world’s a playground..”, but you truly of the kind too. Thanks a lot for reminding me to this great quote. I should live better now, being more daring and curios, as I was a kid..we shouldn’t forget about who were..

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