Comments on: Tough (Question) Tuesday: What are you doing right? http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/ Who do YOU want to be when you grow up? Fri, 10 Sep 2010 19:28:19 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-4033 admin Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:08:58 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-4033 I LOVE that illustration, Ashley - the colors, the penguins (they're my fave) & what it represents. Keep up the great work! I LOVE that illustration, Ashley – the colors, the penguins (they’re my fave) & what it represents. Keep up the great work!

]]> By: ashley inzer http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-4032 ashley inzer Mon, 03 Aug 2009 16:58:19 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-4032 cool!! thanks for sharing my little illustration with your readers...the more the merrier! cool!! thanks for sharing my little illustration with your readers…the more the merrier!

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3820 admin Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:30:32 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3820 Makes sense, Jeremie. It's definitely great that you're recognizing this & figuring out what will work best for you to beat the pessimism monster. Makes sense, Jeremie. It’s definitely great that you’re recognizing this & figuring out what will work best for you to beat the pessimism monster.

]]> By: Jeremie Miller http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3818 Jeremie Miller Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:35:28 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3818 Michelle, This was extreme and out of control pessimism at work, and has no place in my life anymore. I will always embrace a part of my pessimism (I believe extreme optimism is just as risky as extreme pessimism) but this was beyond what I am comfortable embracing. The list on paper or computer is a good idea. I keep track in my head a bit, but at times like this a list might be helpful. Michelle,

This was extreme and out of control pessimism at work, and has no place in my life anymore. I will always embrace a part of my pessimism (I believe extreme optimism is just as risky as extreme pessimism) but this was beyond what I am comfortable embracing.

The list on paper or computer is a good idea. I keep track in my head a bit, but at times like this a list might be helpful.

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3817 admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:54:15 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3817 Jeremie - It's awesome that you were able to kick the pessimism in the face after the pessimistic breakdown (although I thought you were still planning on embracing the pessimist within you, at least in part?)! May I suggest that you keep a running tally of what you're doing right, so you can read it when the pessimist starts rearing his/her ugly head? Emma - Ah, work/life balance - what a concept! So glad to hear that you're embracing it. And, as I know for a fact that you ain't no slacker, I'm sure you're tougher on yourself than anyone else is & you're more than likely doing a kick-ass job. Hope you enjoy some down time this summer! Jeremie – It’s awesome that you were able to kick the pessimism in the face after the pessimistic breakdown (although I thought you were still planning on embracing the pessimist within you, at least in part?)! May I suggest that you keep a running tally of what you’re doing right, so you can read it when the pessimist starts rearing his/her ugly head?

Emma – Ah, work/life balance – what a concept! So glad to hear that you’re embracing it. And, as I know for a fact that you ain’t no slacker, I’m sure you’re tougher on yourself than anyone else is & you’re more than likely doing a kick-ass job. Hope you enjoy some down time this summer!

]]> By: Emma http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3816 Emma Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:13:59 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3816 I've been taking a close look at some of the things that have caused a recent slump for me. Gratefully, I was able to tease out the fact that I was still tied to the notion that in order to consider myself done working for the day, I had to hit an 8-hour limit. Obviously, that's not true--especially given the fact that at most jobs I've tended to get my work done way ahead of schedule. So I've been reminding myself that I need to work until the job or task is finished. And then I need to step away and enjoy my life. You know...the entire reason I'm doing things this way! I’ve been taking a close look at some of the things that have caused a recent slump for me. Gratefully, I was able to tease out the fact that I was still tied to the notion that in order to consider myself done working for the day, I had to hit an 8-hour limit. Obviously, that’s not true–especially given the fact that at most jobs I’ve tended to get my work done way ahead of schedule. So I’ve been reminding myself that I need to work until the job or task is finished. And then I need to step away and enjoy my life. You know…the entire reason I’m doing things this way!

]]> By: Jeremie Miller http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3814 Jeremie Miller Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:55:12 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3814 I recently had an experience that matches this perfectly. As a recovering pessimist I had a breakdown last week during a discussion with my wife. I went full-on into negative thinking, ultimatum giving, the world is going to end mode. After, I felt horrible. I have worked so hard and been doing so good with my pessimism that I started to get bummed out. Then I realized that being pessimistic after having a pessimism breakdown was pointless. Instead, I focused on all of the ways I have improved myself in the pas year, and all of the situations I had managed to stay optimistic in. The perspective shift was great and I managed to salvage my day with my wife and it all turned out all right. Focus on what you do right, not what you do wrong. Great advice! I recently had an experience that matches this perfectly. As a recovering pessimist I had a breakdown last week during a discussion with my wife. I went full-on into negative thinking, ultimatum giving, the world is going to end mode.

After, I felt horrible. I have worked so hard and been doing so good with my pessimism that I started to get bummed out. Then I realized that being pessimistic after having a pessimism breakdown was pointless. Instead, I focused on all of the ways I have improved myself in the pas year, and all of the situations I had managed to stay optimistic in.

The perspective shift was great and I managed to salvage my day with my wife and it all turned out all right.

Focus on what you do right, not what you do wrong. Great advice!

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3813 admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:53:29 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3813 I have a feeling that we're living parallel lives, Paige! It's funny, because when I read the first paragraph you wrote, I assume that's what you're doing "right" - so add it to your list! :) I have a feeling that we’re living parallel lives, Paige! It’s funny, because when I read the first paragraph you wrote, I assume that’s what you’re doing “right” – so add it to your list! :)

]]> By: Paige http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3812 Paige Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:24:35 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3812 Totally agree, Michelle. I am so overextended right now and I'm trying so hard to enjoy the summer. I am constantly online trying to research new ideas to grow my coaching business. I am reading and writing lots. I am networking and trying to schedule new clients in between working full-time, etc. I am trying to reconnect with old friends and coaching classmates regularly. So, what am I doing right...? Living my life to the best of my ability each day. Smiling. Learning. Making friends. Thanks for another great "Tough question Tuesday"! We all need to be reminded of the things we do right! xo Totally agree, Michelle. I am so overextended right now and I’m trying so hard to enjoy the summer. I am constantly online trying to research new ideas to grow my coaching business. I am reading and writing lots. I am networking and trying to schedule new clients in between working full-time, etc. I am trying to reconnect with old friends and coaching classmates regularly.

So, what am I doing right…? Living my life to the best of my ability each day. Smiling. Learning. Making friends.

Thanks for another great “Tough question Tuesday”! We all need to be reminded of the things we do right!

xo

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/2009/07/07/tough-question-tuesday-installment-34/comment-page-1/#comment-3811 admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:58:14 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1746#comment-3811 As a full-time desk jobber who is building a business "on the side" (I put that in quotes because it's hilarious - I eat, breathe, & dream my coaching!), I have a HUGE learning curve. There are so many things I want to do, and only so many hours in the day. Recently, I overscheduled myself for this tiny 3-hour block of time & was super overextended. I went to my life coach that week and berated myself for not having better time/management skills, & wanted a way to make sure it didn't happen again. Instead, I walked away with all the things I was doing right, like realizing in advance that my Wed night was too crowded & counteracting it with stopping, breathing, & prioritizing. I realized too that I didn't need to do EVERYTHING that I put on my plate for that night - some of the deadlines were the next day & I knew that I'd have more time then, so I only allowed myself to work on that one task for 45 minutes before moving on. In working with a life coach for almost a year over two years, I know how I operate & what I need to do before the stress/overwhelm sets up & I become a crazy woman. So I'm doing all that RIGHT! As a full-time desk jobber who is building a business “on the side” (I put that in quotes because it’s hilarious – I eat, breathe, & dream my coaching!), I have a HUGE learning curve. There are so many things I want to do, and only so many hours in the day. Recently, I overscheduled myself for this tiny 3-hour block of time & was super overextended. I went to my life coach that week and berated myself for not having better time/management skills, & wanted a way to make sure it didn’t happen again. Instead, I walked away with all the things I was doing right, like realizing in advance that my Wed night was too crowded & counteracting it with stopping, breathing, & prioritizing. I realized too that I didn’t need to do EVERYTHING that I put on my plate for that night – some of the deadlines were the next day & I knew that I’d have more time then, so I only allowed myself to work on that one task for 45 minutes before moving on. In working with a life coach for almost a year over two years, I know how I operate & what I need to do before the stress/overwhelm sets up & I become a crazy woman. So I’m doing all that RIGHT!

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