Tough (Question) Tuesday: What does your heart want?
This week I had the opportunity to coach a client who was listening to The Voice of Reason (aka Not-What-You-Really-Want-But-What-Will-Most-Likely-Work-So-Just-Suck-It-Up-And-Do-It-Or-You’ll-Never-Make-It-In-This-Crazy-Business) instead of The Voice of The Heart (aka This-Is-What-I-Really-Want-But-There’s-No-Guarantee-That-I-Can-Really-Succeed-So-I’m-Scared-And-Should-Just-Do-What’s-Easy-Instead).
I sensed a shift when I asked:
”What does your heart want?”
It was then that she acknowledged her dream, and the obstacles in front of her. We were then able to work together to figure out how she could actually use what she doesn’t want (but is an opportunity she’d be crazy to pass up) to get her closer to her goal! This doesn’t mean you should throw logic or smarts out the window -but if you make sure to include at least a sliver of what your heart wants, you’ll certainly know you’re traveling down the right path.
How does this question relate to your current challenge? Join me in answering this question in the comments section.
You can read the other installments of Tough (Question) Tuesday here.
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December 23rd, 2008 at 9:26 am
What does my heart want? It wants to release struggle and embrace passion. I know that sounds a bit hazy and unspecific, but it makes sense in the context I have it in my head. As someone who has lived in a crazy urban world for 12 years, always going-going-going and doing-doing-doing I find my heart looking for peace, and calm, and going-going-going that only leads to love-love-love and passion-passion-passion. It wants to get out of the rat race and find out how to give every day meaning, inspiration, creativity, and (here’s that word again) passion.
December 23rd, 2008 at 9:37 am
My heart wants peace in life, too. I graduated college on Friday..and had to pick which parent could watch..because they can’t be in the same room. It wasn’t fair. Why can’t people get along? Is the same thing within us that makes us love..makes us hate too? I want peace..and to know that everything will be OK. I know it will be, but having assurance in something is much nicer.
December 23rd, 2008 at 9:59 am
Thanks for sharing, Charlotte – I appreciate how open you were with your comment.
As a child of divorced parents (who split up during spring break of my freshman year in college) I can totally relate. Now, 11 years later, I was still concerned with not placing my parents too close to each other at my wedding! I don’t know how much of a comfort it will be for you now, but my parents DID make an extra effort to be not only tolerant but kind to each other both at my wedding and throughout my engagement. It CAN get better.
In the meanwhile, is there anything that you can take action with regarding your parents? How can you incorporate that want of peace and assurance into your relationship with your parents? I know that it seems impossible, but there might be just a sliver of something that can be done to get things towards that path.
If you feel like there’s nothing that can be done regarding your parents behavior, is there anything that you can do for yourself to be more at peace with this? Something that is in your control to do?
Regardless of all the sad talk, CONGRATS on your college graduation! Hope you had a GREAT celebration!!!!