Comments on: 5 Reasons I Got Off My Ass & Discovered a New Passion http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/ Who do YOU want to be when you grow up? Tue, 22 May 2012 02:04:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rebecca http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-22389 Rebecca Tue, 01 Nov 2011 18:49:15 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-22389 Its like you could read my mind... 8 months ago Michelle! Thankfully, it doesn't have to be this way. Cheers to that! Its like you could read my mind… 8 months ago Michelle! Thankfully, it doesn't have to be this way. Cheers to that!

]]> By: Christy http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-17726 Christy Wed, 12 Oct 2011 04:17:54 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-17726 I've been stuck in the "this isn't working" place for a loooong time. Between being the only employed person in my home for the past 2+ years, not wanting to jump from one dismal job to another flavor of dismal job (for less money), and having no idea what I want to do, I haven't been able to get beyond this place so far. I've taken a number of online classes and "creative' workshops and a drawing class at community college, all trying to find a spark or passion or idea for a new creative endeavor, but no dice so far. But trying to paint, starting a life list and a blog, and actively searching for the right thing is helping me keep a level of optimism (higher some days than others, but that's how it goes). Just keep swimming, and all that. I've been stuck in the "this isn't working" place for a loooong time. Between being the only employed person in my home for the past 2+ years, not wanting to jump from one dismal job to another flavor of dismal job (for less money), and having no idea what I want to do, I haven't been able to get beyond this place so far. I've taken a number of online classes and "creative' workshops and a drawing class at community college, all trying to find a spark or passion or idea for a new creative endeavor, but no dice so far. But trying to paint, starting a life list and a blog, and actively searching for the right thing is helping me keep a level of optimism (higher some days than others, but that's how it goes). Just keep swimming, and all that.

]]> By: Amy http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-17613 Amy Tue, 11 Oct 2011 16:20:08 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-17613 I had a really good answer to this Q when I saw your post before going to sleep... and now I can't remember what I wanted to say. But I did also want to mention that I think the term "Practical Dreamer" would resonate with a lot of people I know who are afraid that career coaching means taking a leap of faith / being pushed off a cliff before they're ready. I know your whole approach is "practical dreamer," but I don't think I've seen you use that phrase before now and I think it's a really appropriate one that'll catch people's attention. Might be good to include in FAQs or "What is coaching?" Not that you're running low on bookings! ;) I had a really good answer to this Q when I saw your post before going to sleep… and now I can't remember what I wanted to say. But I did also want to mention that I think the term "Practical Dreamer" would resonate with a lot of people I know who are afraid that career coaching means taking a leap of faith / being pushed off a cliff before they're ready. I know your whole approach is "practical dreamer," but I don't think I've seen you use that phrase before now and I think it's a really appropriate one that'll catch people's attention. Might be good to include in FAQs or "What is coaching?" Not that you're running low on bookings! ;)

]]> By: Ian Mabey http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-7541 Ian Mabey Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:36:49 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-7541 I had to read your post twice to get the full meaning of it. I appreciate reading what you have to say. It's unfortunate that more people do not understand the benefits of coaching. Keep up the good work. I had to read your post twice to get the full meaning of it. I appreciate reading what you have to say. It's unfortunate that more people do not understand the benefits of coaching. Keep up the good work.

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-3859 admin Mon, 13 Jul 2009 10:09:53 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-3859 Thanks so much for putting yourself out there, James! I wish I can say "I know what you should do to stop your laziness. Here's the magic answer!" & then rainbows would appear & harps would play & angels will sing.....but, as a life coach, I can't do that in good faith. You are the one who'll have to do some soul-searching & ask yourself where this laziness is coming from. Is it fear of success? Fear of failure? Lack of motivation? Lack of passion/interest in what you're "supposed" to be doing? Something else entirely? Once you have your finger on it, you might want to ask yourself, as a follow-up question, "Why?" You can think of yourself like a 3 year old, always asking "Why?" until you get to the end of the line, or see your challenge in a new way. Once you find the reasoning, then you can start figuring out how to combat this (or, as you put it, "swallow your pity & do something!"). Keep in mind that there probably isn't one magical answer, so start by thinking of all the different ways you can get yourself to move forward (ie bribing yourself with treats after every X rehearsals, starting with just 15 minutes/day of practice, etc). Then go through them & see which one(s) stick(s). *Shameless self-promotion alert!* Of course, a life coach can help you see this more clearly & can help get you on track - & stay there! Don't hesitate to contact me if you'd like a free consultation call to see how a coach can help you. I'd love to chat! Thanks so much for putting yourself out there, James! I wish I can say "I know what you should do to stop your laziness. Here's the magic answer!" & then rainbows would appear & harps would play & angels will sing…..but, as a life coach, I can't do that in good faith. You are the one who'll have to do some soul-searching & ask yourself where this laziness is coming from. Is it fear of success? Fear of failure? Lack of motivation? Lack of passion/interest in what you're "supposed" to be doing? Something else entirely? Once you have your finger on it, you might want to ask yourself, as a follow-up question, "Why?" You can think of yourself like a 3 year old, always asking "Why?" until you get to the end of the line, or see your challenge in a new way.

Once you find the reasoning, then you can start figuring out how to combat this (or, as you put it, "swallow your pity & do something!"). Keep in mind that there probably isn't one magical answer, so start by thinking of all the different ways you can get yourself to move forward (ie bribing yourself with treats after every X rehearsals, starting with just 15 minutes/day of practice, etc). Then go through them & see which one(s) stick(s).

*Shameless self-promotion alert!* Of course, a life coach can help you see this more clearly & can help get you on track – & stay there! Don't hesitate to contact me if you'd like a free consultation call to see how a coach can help you. I'd love to chat!

]]> By: James http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-3854 James Sun, 12 Jul 2009 22:19:46 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-3854 Hello. Thank you for that post. I found it somewhat inspiring and I hope I have the confidence you now have going into the future. I am an ambitious 27 year old. I have a great girlfriend, a job I can't stand that pays pretty well and I take voice over lessons. I take these lessons because I know that if I apply myself I would be a kick ass voice actor. But I have ridiculous motivation issues. I find it so incredibly difficult to sit down and practice. I always force myself to find something wasteful to do (mindless net browsing, video games or sleeping). It has been this way all my life. Whether it's schoolwork or guitar lessons, I don't put in the effort. And I've been told that I probably have not found my passion, but I know this is not the case. It's laziness plain and simple and I know it. Yet it's so freaking hard to not be lazy. I'm apprehensive when I sit myself down for serious work. It's always depressed me and it's getting worse now that I'm approaching 30. What's that you say? Swallow my pity and do something! Wish it was that easy for me. I'm not trying to get back on track because I've never been on track to begin with. Do you have any advice or can you point me in the direction of someone or somewhere that might? Thanks for reading, James Hello. Thank you for that post. I found it somewhat inspiring and I hope I have the confidence you now have going into the future.

I am an ambitious 27 year old. I have a great girlfriend, a job I can't stand that pays pretty well and I take voice over lessons. I take these lessons because I know that if I apply myself I would be a kick ass voice actor. But I have ridiculous motivation issues. I find it so incredibly difficult to sit down and practice. I always force myself to find something wasteful to do (mindless net browsing, video games or sleeping). It has been this way all my life. Whether it's schoolwork or guitar lessons, I don't put in the effort. And I've been told that I probably have not found my passion, but I know this is not the case. It's laziness plain and simple and I know it. Yet it's so freaking hard to not be lazy. I'm apprehensive when I sit myself down for serious work. It's always depressed me and it's getting worse now that I'm approaching 30. What's that you say? Swallow my pity and do something! Wish it was that easy for me. I'm not trying to get back on track because I've never been on track to begin with.

Do you have any advice or can you point me in the direction of someone or somewhere that might?

Thanks for reading,

James

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-3730 admin Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:46:37 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-3730 I LOVE it, Tiko! I had a feeling that my journal entry has been every one at one point or another. And this life coach doesn't say to kick rocks - she says they can "suck it"! But I ain't your average life coach :) I LOVE it, Tiko! I had a feeling that my journal entry has been every one at one point or another.

And this life coach doesn't say to kick rocks – she says they can "suck it"! But I ain't your average life coach :)

]]> By: Tiko http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-3729 Tiko Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:42:21 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-3729 Omigod! Your 'journal' entry totally sounds just like me 7 weeks ago!! LOL! I would say that at this present moment, I'm taking steps to get where I envision myself to be. I'm just trying hard not to doubt myself. I'm also growing up...I'm learning that not everybody is gonna buy into my dreams. But, that's okay, they can all kick rocks!! (do life coaches say that???...lol...) I'm learning to lean on my support system...my personal relationship with God, and my wonderful friends and family...and my awesome coaches and cheerleaders along the way!! (<--i.e. YOU!!) Omigod! Your 'journal' entry totally sounds just like me 7 weeks ago!! LOL! I would say that at this present moment, I'm taking steps to get where I envision myself to be. I'm just trying hard not to doubt myself. I'm also growing up…I'm learning that not everybody is gonna buy into my dreams. But, that's okay, they can all kick rocks!! (do life coaches say that???…lol…) I'm learning to lean on my support system…my personal relationship with God, and my wonderful friends and family…and my awesome coaches and cheerleaders along the way!! (<–i.e. YOU!!)

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-3727 admin Wed, 24 Jun 2009 11:16:48 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-3727 Kristen, you are amazing! You just laid your heart out, too. And yes, when I came across that old post I couldn't not put it up for my readers. What a scary place that was & what a relief to know where I landed (as Mike Birbiglia says, "I live in the future too!"). Look at us finding & pursuing our new dreams! Kristen, you are amazing! You just laid your heart out, too. And yes, when I came across that old post I couldn't not put it up for my readers. What a scary place that was & what a relief to know where I landed (as Mike Birbiglia says, "I live in the future too!"). Look at us finding & pursuing our new dreams!

]]> By: Kristen Beireis http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2011/10/11/5-reasons-i-got-off-my-ass-discovered-a-new-passion/comment-page-1/#comment-3726 Kristen Beireis Wed, 24 Jun 2009 11:12:42 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1646#comment-3726 Wow! Look at you laying your heart out for all of us to see and learn from. I know that jaded and scary place well and I'm pretty sure those 5 things are what got me to where I am today, as well. You gotta do what you love and have the life you want. Changing passions is sometimes necessary to get that. To all those who are reading this post and feel you are in the same place as Michelle was, don't wait. Explore your options. Look for what you really want in your life and see how that matches up for you. If where you are doesn't match, then PLEASE contact Michelle! If it wasn't for finding a coach like Michelle when I was in that place, I would still be pounding the pavement and resenting the life that I had as an Actor. Thanks Michelle for reminding me of how far I've come! -Kristen Wow! Look at you laying your heart out for all of us to see and learn from. I know that jaded and scary place well and I'm pretty sure those 5 things are what got me to where I am today, as well. You gotta do what you love and have the life you want. Changing passions is sometimes necessary to get that.

To all those who are reading this post and feel you are in the same place as Michelle was, don't wait. Explore your options. Look for what you really want in your life and see how that matches up for you. If where you are doesn't match, then PLEASE contact Michelle! If it wasn't for finding a coach like Michelle when I was in that place, I would still be pounding the pavement and resenting the life that I had as an Actor.

Thanks Michelle for reminding me of how far I've come!

-Kristen

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