Things Are Not Going As Planned
Hold On by Kelly Rae Roberts. She knows just what to say.
Y’know when you have a Great Big Plan for months & months & then that plan blows up in your face/falls apart/decides to become a Great Big Mess?
Well, I do. It’s happening today. In case it’s not obvious, things are not going as planned.
I wanted to have exciting news for you guys tomorrow – a juicy, exciting, awesome vlog where I would most certainly cry. And now….well, I know it’ll happen SOON but I just don’t know when. And I know that I’m a life coach & I know that I should (there’s that word!) just roll with the punches & take deep breaths, especially because I know that this Great Big Plan might only be delayed for a week or two. But I don’t wanna roll with punches or be rational or take deep breaths. I wanna yell & throw a tantrum & shout to the skies, “Why is this happening to ME?!”
Honestly, I’m gonna do all that soon. I’m gonna get it out of my system & give myself that tantrum time & let myself cry & cry, because I know that 5 minutes later I’ll feel better & move on & be OK. I mean, I do know it’s all OK & it’s not the end of the world. It’s just…things are not going as planned. And when there’s a plan as exciting as this, it’s not one that you want to postpone.
So, come back tomorrow for a new Tough (Question) Tuesday & Wednesday for a book review or a juicy article (not sure which yet) & then, hopefully, by the end of the week my Great Big Plan can be a Great Big Reality that I can share with all of you.
Until then, feel free to send me your favorite relaxation techniques & jars of bubble bath for my favorite relaxation technique. I’m gonna need ‘em.
March 1st, 2010 at 6:06 am
Oh Michelle, I'm so sorry things are panning out in accordance with your plan. I agree with the sentiment in KRR's painting. Hold on.
My favorite relaxation technique… close your eyes. (well, after you read the next 3 lines anyway) and
Inhale.
Exhale.
Repeat.
Ok, do it now. Yes, now. You can read on when you're done.
Maybe there's a lesson to be learned (either for you or someone else) in this.
Maybe the Universe knows how much you rock and needs more time to prepare some other people for your awesomeness.
Maybe it could be a million different things…. either way, it is what it is and knowing you, you're going to knock it out of the park either way.
If there is anything I can do to cheer for you in the meantime, I'm here!
Mucho love,
Carmen
March 1st, 2010 at 6:17 am
That should say "aren't". Damn typos!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:32 am
I recommend a trip to nature as soon as humanly possible. It is the only thing big enough to melt away my biggest stress. I forget where you are: do you have a forest, a lake, a river, the ocean or even a park with big trees nearby? Bundle up and spend an hour there.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:33 am
An hour *at least* — the whole day would be better. Scrap everything!
March 1st, 2010 at 9:38 am
@Carmen – Isn't it amazing how good breathing feels, & how often we forget to do it? And yes, I think there is a lesson here, & I like it being: "Maybe the Universe knows how much you rock and needs more time to prepare some other people for your awesomeness." This must be it.
@Jessica – I'm in NYC but close to Bryant Park, & that's exactly where I went for my lunch hour. It's the warmest day we've had in months & I was so happy to be able to eat outside. I thought, "Even if my whole's day crappy, I have this hour." It did make me feel better.
Thanks ladies!
March 1st, 2010 at 10:17 am
Ah! So frustrating! This kind of thing always happens to me when I'm in a transition period. Like when I'm switching jobs, or moving somewhere new, or graduating from something or other. I fully endorse a good tantrum followed by curling up in bed with your significant other and watching reruns of Friends or How I Met Your Mother. But besides that, there's always this: In a few weeks, when you're in the midst of your Really Cool Thing, you will have forgotten this short period of frustration. Or at least that's what always happens for me. And hopefully, this experience will make you even more excited and ready to go with what you're getting started.
March 1st, 2010 at 2:16 pm
Cry. Take a shower. Meet a friend. Soup + Wine. The End.
Feel better, lady …
March 1st, 2010 at 6:33 pm
Grrr! Yes, I sure do know this feeling and…grrr! Crying it out is always a good start, and then in addition to the breathing and escaping into TV recommended above (I highly agree with both!), I like to make up a totally imaginary story about my future that explains why things absolutely had to work out this way, like if it didn't you would have ended up missing out on a billion dollar lotto ticket. I know the story isn't true, but it always makes me feel a little better. Hope the Great Thing happens soon!
March 2nd, 2010 at 5:34 am
@Kylie – Amen & hallelujah! I think I will absolutely forget about this in a month's time. OK, maybe not a month, but I think in a month from now I'll look back & say, "Wow, that was tough. But worth it." Maybe it's supposed to be tough because it's something I really want. The War of Art says that the harder/scarier something is, the more fulfilling it'll be when you do it. Maybe this was meant to be even harder than it was supposed to be because it'll make the result that much sweeter.
@Alexandra – Soup + wine. I like that combo. I think you nailed it on the head – I need comfort. I take comfort in my friends, my husband, my bathtime, a glass of wine, some apple juice. I'm gonna make sure I'm extra comforted this week.
@Katy – I love the imaginary story idea! There must be something I'm supposed to be going through/not missing right now. I think I also have to hold on to the idea of "everything happens for a reason." I'm trying to come up with very many reasons as to why this is happening, no matter how ridiculous. I'm adding the winning billion dollar lottery ticket to the list!