Comments on: My Middle Name Is “Overwhelmed…” http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/ Who do YOU want to be when you grow up? Thu, 17 May 2012 00:37:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3349 admin Mon, 25 May 2009 13:59:21 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3349 Buffy & Angel as comic books? I had no idea that was going on. I'm not really a comic book person, but my nerd husband should love that. And thanks for the Angel rec - I'll definitely take that seriously. Buffy & Angel as comic books? I had no idea that was going on. I'm not really a comic book person, but my nerd husband should love that. And thanks for the Angel rec – I'll definitely take that seriously.

]]> By: Jeremie http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3249 Jeremie Fri, 22 May 2009 13:02:10 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3249 Season 8 of Buffy is being written in comic book format and picks up where season 7 leaves off. Not nearly as good as the TV show, but it is a good read and keeps the same tone as the TV show. Take a break, but definitely watch Angel at some point. In many ways I ended up enjoying it even more than Buffy. It is also being continued in comic book format. Season 8 of Buffy is being written in comic book format and picks up where season 7 leaves off. Not nearly as good as the TV show, but it is a good read and keeps the same tone as the TV show.

Take a break, but definitely watch Angel at some point. In many ways I ended up enjoying it even more than Buffy. It is also being continued in comic book format.

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3245 admin Fri, 22 May 2009 11:49:05 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3245 You guys are awesome! Jeremie: I have GTD in my apt as I speak. Read it years ago but didn't put anything into action - I think it was way too "big" for me at the time. I'm planning to re-read it in order to take what I want to out of it. Implementing the whole thing still scares me. What do you mean by "reading" Season 8 of Buffy? And no, don't think I'm going to start Angel, at least now anyway. I think we need a Buffy break when this is done. Really liking Season 7 though! And unfortunately (or fortunately?) I have no idea what the towel reference is, but can guarantee the hubby knows :) Thanks for the kind words, too. I know I am being too hard on myself - all of this aggravation is 100% self-inflicted - and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that school is over & I haven't yet found my path. It's a total transition & I just need to find my way. Meghan - Those RA duties sound ridiculous - I don't care if you get a free room! That's nutso. And I totally agree that it's me changing my perspective on things, but I have to figure out how I'm able to do that and believe the new perspective, too. Thankfully, I am taking my 3 day weekend and making it both very easy breezy & really enjoyable - not too packed of a schedule but spending it with those I love. I know it'll make a difference. Tiko - Although I knew you'd make a great life coach before, now I am really convinced! I have a similar structure in place but have almost forgotten about it - a Brilliant Ideas journal where I would put projects that lived on my To Do List for month. By putting it in the Brilliant Ideas journal, I'm acknowledging their awesomeness as well as the fact that they're not so timely, and I could have them when I "need" them. Love the thought of separating Ideas & To Dos on a daily basis, & I know I'll utilize that in my Filofax (I'm stupidly excited for it to arrive). Many thanks for the suggestion! You guys are awesome!

Jeremie: I have GTD in my apt as I speak. Read it years ago but didn't put anything into action – I think it was way too "big" for me at the time. I'm planning to re-read it in order to take what I want to out of it. Implementing the whole thing still scares me. What do you mean by "reading" Season 8 of Buffy? And no, don't think I'm going to start Angel, at least now anyway. I think we need a Buffy break when this is done. Really liking Season 7 though! And unfortunately (or fortunately?) I have no idea what the towel reference is, but can guarantee the hubby knows :) Thanks for the kind words, too. I know I am being too hard on myself – all of this aggravation is 100% self-inflicted – and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that school is over & I haven't yet found my path. It's a total transition & I just need to find my way.

Meghan – Those RA duties sound ridiculous – I don't care if you get a free room! That's nutso. And I totally agree that it's me changing my perspective on things, but I have to figure out how I'm able to do that and believe the new perspective, too. Thankfully, I am taking my 3 day weekend and making it both very easy breezy & really enjoyable – not too packed of a schedule but spending it with those I love. I know it'll make a difference.

Tiko – Although I knew you'd make a great life coach before, now I am really convinced! I have a similar structure in place but have almost forgotten about it – a Brilliant Ideas journal where I would put projects that lived on my To Do List for month. By putting it in the Brilliant Ideas journal, I'm acknowledging their awesomeness as well as the fact that they're not so timely, and I could have them when I "need" them. Love the thought of separating Ideas & To Dos on a daily basis, & I know I'll utilize that in my Filofax (I'm stupidly excited for it to arrive). Many thanks for the suggestion!

]]> By: Tiko http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3241 Tiko Fri, 22 May 2009 09:34:19 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3241 I have a great tip that has helped me tremendously! I'm the type of person that always has new ideas that suddently pop into my head at the most inconvenient times. And, I'm also the type of person that always comes up with 'one more thing...' that i need to do. I used to get overwhelmed because I would try to honor each and every idea and to-do, and I would immediately try to schedule a time to do them, and I would end up with a monster, impossible to-do list for the next day. So! Now, on my phone I set up a memo labeled IDEAS...and another memo labeled TO-DO. When I get a idea or remember to do something, instead of worrying about how or when to do it, I just add it to the respective memo...and...forget about it!! I'm only allowed to think about them during the magic planning hour on Sundays. Every Sunday, I pull out my schedule and my to-do list. Then, at that time, I schedule when to attack each to-do. As for the idea list...I put them in my idea book, and once a month I pick 6 ideas to set as goals for the month. The rest...stay in the book! Until maybe next month. Ahhh....I feel so much better. And, if this makes any sense to you...maybe it can make you feel better to...:) I have a great tip that has helped me tremendously! I'm the type of person that always has new ideas that suddently pop into my head at the most inconvenient times. And, I'm also the type of person that always comes up with 'one more thing…' that i need to do. I used to get overwhelmed because I would try to honor each and every idea and to-do, and I would immediately try to schedule a time to do them, and I would end up with a monster, impossible to-do list for the next day. So! Now, on my phone I set up a memo labeled IDEAS…and another memo labeled TO-DO. When I get a idea or remember to do something, instead of worrying about how or when to do it, I just add it to the respective memo…and…forget about it!! I'm only allowed to think about them during the magic planning hour on Sundays. Every Sunday, I pull out my schedule and my to-do list. Then, at that time, I schedule when to attack each to-do. As for the idea list…I put them in my idea book, and once a month I pick 6 ideas to set as goals for the month. The rest…stay in the book! Until maybe next month. Ahhh….I feel so much better. And, if this makes any sense to you…maybe it can make you feel better to…:)

]]> By: Meghan http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3232 Meghan Fri, 22 May 2009 02:36:45 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3232 Good Lord! Your blog sounds exactly like how my life use to look! I was working as a Resident Adviser in my dorm and literally I was obligated by my job to never let a second go by without talking to someone, filling out some sort of paperwork, or doing community activities. Forget homework. Forget a life. I feel like there are a million things you could do that would help make you more organized or time savers,etc but really all of those things are just small adjustments. It's the mentality that you will make more time for yourself, the mentality of placing importance on being relaxed. Good Lord! Your blog sounds exactly like how my life use to look! I was working as a Resident Adviser in my dorm and literally I was obligated by my job to never let a second go by without talking to someone, filling out some sort of paperwork, or doing community activities. Forget homework. Forget a life. I feel like there are a million things you could do that would help make you more organized or time savers,etc but really all of those things are just small adjustments. It's the mentality that you will make more time for yourself, the mentality of placing importance on being relaxed.

]]> By: Jeremie Miller http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3221 Jeremie Miller Thu, 21 May 2009 21:13:33 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3221 Wow, so many references that fit my life perfectly in this post: Many Getting Things Done references, a book which has helped me with my own brain dumps and list making, as well as my filing. Sarah: I also set twice as many actions each week as I actually plan on getting done. This gives me a reasonable number to deal with, but if I can, I can shoot for the stars. Buffy references: always a good thing...are you reading season 8? Season 6 of Angel? Michelle: Don't Panic and try to always remember where your towel is (I am doing a geekiness check with this). You haven't been done with ICA that long, you have a lot of life ahead of you, I am sure you are being much too hard on yourself (I know I am often too hard on myself). I really support your idea about mapping out your week each Sunday and then being accountable for that. Since I have been doing this I have increased my productivity and success with my goals 500%. Have fun and move forward, even if it is just tiny steps. Jeremie Wow, so many references that fit my life perfectly in this post:

Many Getting Things Done references, a book which has helped me with my own brain dumps and list making, as well as my filing.

Sarah: I also set twice as many actions each week as I actually plan on getting done. This gives me a reasonable number to deal with, but if I can, I can shoot for the stars.

Buffy references: always a good thing…are you reading season 8? Season 6 of Angel?

Michelle: Don't Panic and try to always remember where your towel is (I am doing a geekiness check with this). You haven't been done with ICA that long, you have a lot of life ahead of you, I am sure you are being much too hard on yourself (I know I am often too hard on myself). I really support your idea about mapping out your week each Sunday and then being accountable for that. Since I have been doing this I have increased my productivity and success with my goals 500%.

Have fun and move forward, even if it is just tiny steps.

Jeremie

]]> By: Caitlin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3212 Caitlin Thu, 21 May 2009 16:36:06 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3212 Great post, Michelle. I can definitely relate! Especially about making a big long list of everything that is on your mind. I am currently working on that and found this list very helpful: <a href="http://wiki.43folders.com/index.php/Trigger_List" rel="nofollow">http://wiki.43folders.com/index.php/Trigger_List</a> It's a list of triggers for a "mind dump" as they call it and it helped me put things on the list that I might have left off. You're probably familiar with it, but I thought I'd share! Caitlin Great post, Michelle. I can definitely relate! Especially about making a big long list of everything that is on your mind. I am currently working on that and found this list very helpful: http://wiki.43folders.com/index.php/Trigger_List

It's a list of triggers for a "mind dump" as they call it and it helped me put things on the list that I might have left off. You're probably familiar with it, but I thought I'd share!

Caitlin

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3204 admin Thu, 21 May 2009 09:56:08 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3204 I'm in total agreement with you, Sarah (and BTW, the hubby & I have gone through the entire Buffy series on DVD & are final on disc 3 of the last season! So funny that you mentioned that). I am doing a good job at carving out Me Time/Social Time (it's been a challenge for me in the past), but it's tough for me to fully enjoy it because my mind is always someplace else. The list idea is great, and one I'm gonna execute soon with a big fat "brain dump". I think that will slow my mind down considerably so I don't have to be constantly "remembering" things. I'm in total agreement with you, Sarah (and BTW, the hubby & I have gone through the entire Buffy series on DVD & are final on disc 3 of the last season! So funny that you mentioned that). I am doing a good job at carving out Me Time/Social Time (it's been a challenge for me in the past), but it's tough for me to fully enjoy it because my mind is always someplace else. The list idea is great, and one I'm gonna execute soon with a big fat "brain dump". I think that will slow my mind down considerably so I don't have to be constantly "remembering" things.

]]> By: Sarah http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/05/20/my-middle-name-is-overwhelmed/comment-page-1/#comment-3184 Sarah Wed, 20 May 2009 19:55:28 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=1281#comment-3184 I love lists to organize myself and keep myself from feeling overwhelmed. I usually list out and plan about twice what I can actually get done in a given time frame, so I try to keep that in mind on my lists. The other thing that I try to keep in mind when I switch into do-everything-now-mode is BALANCE. Things like FUN are necessary, and if you don't figure out a way to really relax and have fun (not the "gee I'm accomplishing so much" kind of fun, the running through the sprinklers kind) your body/mind will find a way to shut down all of your accomplishing. When all else fails I pull out my Buffy DVDs and zone out in front of the TV, just to shut the brain down for a while. The whole "being present" thing (especially when I'm doing something "fun") is something else I work on constantly. When I manage it I really do enjoy myself a lot more. I love lists to organize myself and keep myself from feeling overwhelmed. I usually list out and plan about twice what I can actually get done in a given time frame, so I try to keep that in mind on my lists. The other thing that I try to keep in mind when I switch into do-everything-now-mode is BALANCE. Things like FUN are necessary, and if you don't figure out a way to really relax and have fun (not the "gee I'm accomplishing so much" kind of fun, the running through the sprinklers kind) your body/mind will find a way to shut down all of your accomplishing. When all else fails I pull out my Buffy DVDs and zone out in front of the TV, just to shut the brain down for a while. The whole "being present" thing (especially when I'm doing something "fun") is something else I work on constantly. When I manage it I really do enjoy myself a lot more.

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