Comments on: Tough (Question) Tuesday: How do you tell the Scary Stuff to take a hike? http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/ Who do YOU want to be when you grow up? Thu, 17 May 2012 00:37:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Carolyn http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2078 Carolyn Tue, 14 Apr 2009 20:52:13 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2078 This is too funny! BECAUSE the opposite is going to happen! You're going to look back at these comments in a year and laugh :). This is too funny! BECAUSE the opposite is going to happen! You're going to look back at these comments in a year and laugh :) .

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2077 admin Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:42:11 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2077 A bag lady coaching other bag ladies! I'd have such an "in" - no networking needed! A bag lady coaching other bag ladies! I'd have such an "in" – no networking needed!

]]> By: Jeremie Miller http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2076 Jeremie Miller Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:13:31 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2076 So it sounds like your worst case scenario brings life coaching opportunities to the homeless, not necessarily a bad thing, think of all the people you could truly help after you are "ruined". So it sounds like your worst case scenario brings life coaching opportunities to the homeless, not necessarily a bad thing, think of all the people you could truly help after you are "ruined".

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2075 admin Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:50:29 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2075 Y'know what's funny, Ann Marie, is that I realized that fear has never held me back. At least if it did, I can't remember. And I don't think it's going to hold me back this time, but I'm still scared of it. How crazy ridiculous is that! I see that now, and hopefully it will quell the anxiety and take me through this next chapter with some peace & a lot of fun! Y'know what's funny, Ann Marie, is that I realized that fear has never held me back. At least if it did, I can't remember. And I don't think it's going to hold me back this time, but I'm still scared of it. How crazy ridiculous is that! I see that now, and hopefully it will quell the anxiety and take me through this next chapter with some peace & a lot of fun!

]]> By: Ann Marie http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2074 Ann Marie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:46:52 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2074 I love the old saying, "nothing ventured, nothing gained." It really is the truth. That is what I tell myself when the "scary stuff" voice makes an appearance. When I was young (teen and early 20's) I feared change and I let it keep me from doing things I wanted to do. Somewhere along my life's journey, I learned that I was letting my fear of the unknown and of failure, keep me from living the life I wanted. No more sister! This is our life and it is up to us to make it what we want it to be. If you don't take that first step, you can't climb the mountain. I love the old saying, "nothing ventured, nothing gained." It really is the truth. That is what I tell myself when the "scary stuff" voice makes an appearance. When I was young (teen and early 20's) I feared change and I let it keep me from doing things I wanted to do. Somewhere along my life's journey, I learned that I was letting my fear of the unknown and of failure, keep me from living the life I wanted. No more sister! This is our life and it is up to us to make it what we want it to be. If you don't take that first step, you can't climb the mountain.

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2073 admin Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:35:08 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2073 Nah, Ben will stick around - he is smitten, I can tell! I asked Luke just yesterday (for the 100,000,000 time), "Do you love me even though I'm crazy?" and he responded, "I love you BECAUSE you're crazy." Aw. He's a keeper. Have fun hanging with Fear! Just don't buy him too much booze. He's a scary drunk. Nah, Ben will stick around – he is smitten, I can tell! I asked Luke just yesterday (for the 100,000,000 time), "Do you love me even though I'm crazy?" and he responded, "I love you BECAUSE you're crazy." Aw. He's a keeper.

Have fun hanging with Fear! Just don't buy him too much booze. He's a scary drunk.

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2072 admin Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:33:18 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2072 Joanne, there is a reason that you are my coaching mentor! You are a smart, smart lady & I aspire to be more like you at every session (which is most likely where that powerful question came from!). I think I do need to have an imagining session (that sounds fun, right?!) or some story time to write, "Once upon a time, there was a life coach named Michelle. And she drove her business into the ground." Actually, as my mind starts racing ahead of my typing, I find myself laughing! Because that's ridiculous! And then what happens - I'm a bag lady who talks to herself and who spends most of her time drooling? Uh, no! I'm not scared of that - it's not going to happen. Now I WANT to lay it all out, see the fear visually, and laugh at it. I might even point. Joanne, there is a reason that you are my coaching mentor! You are a smart, smart lady & I aspire to be more like you at every session (which is most likely where that powerful question came from!).

I think I do need to have an imagining session (that sounds fun, right?!) or some story time to write, "Once upon a time, there was a life coach named Michelle. And she drove her business into the ground." Actually, as my mind starts racing ahead of my typing, I find myself laughing! Because that's ridiculous! And then what happens – I'm a bag lady who talks to herself and who spends most of her time drooling? Uh, no! I'm not scared of that – it's not going to happen.

Now I WANT to lay it all out, see the fear visually, and laugh at it. I might even point.

]]> By: carolyn http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2071 carolyn Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:26:13 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2071 Yes! You are hilarious Michelle! Hilarious not Crazy! I'm so happy it helped -- now I have to remember to say it to myself. Thank goodness for our boys and our blogs! Maybe I should push my wedding date up ... definitely becoming crazier each day! I'm going to take my friend, Fear, and go work on some fun research! Yes! You are hilarious Michelle! Hilarious not Crazy! I'm so happy it helped — now I have to remember to say it to myself. Thank goodness for our boys and our blogs! Maybe I should push my wedding date up … definitely becoming crazier each day! I'm going to take my friend, Fear, and go work on some fun research!

]]> By: Joanne Hunold http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2070 Joanne Hunold Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:25:03 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2070 Hey Michelle, What is the outcome you want? That is, are you wanting to not feel fear or are you wanting to be able to act in spite of the fear? You might have more success with the latter. As you know, I am intimately familiar with fear, so this is coming from the perspective of someone who is trying to come up with the ultimate fear-slaying solution herself. May I remind you of the great coaching you gave me around fear: what is the worst that could happen? And if the worst happens, how will you handle it? In my case, I found that making the fear very concrete, very specific, helped me realize that there was no substance to it (ie my imagination was running wild). For those fears that remain after I have made them specific I ask myself the following: how likely is it to occur? Can I handle it (even though it may not be fun or easy)? Knowing in advance that I can handle whatever comes my way makes it a lot easier to move forward. And another thing I like to tell myself is that "I wish I weren't scared, but I am, so suck it up and get on with it. It will be easier next time." In other words, sometimes I don't fight the fear. I work around it. BTW you know you get my vote for making it all as fun as possible. I do believe that fun is really important. Hey Michelle,

What is the outcome you want? That is, are you wanting to not feel fear or are you wanting to be able to act in spite of the fear? You might have more success with the latter. As you know, I am intimately familiar with fear, so this is coming from the perspective of someone who is trying to come up with the ultimate fear-slaying solution herself.

May I remind you of the great coaching you gave me around fear: what is the worst that could happen? And if the worst happens, how will you handle it? In my case, I found that making the fear very concrete, very specific, helped me realize that there was no substance to it (ie my imagination was running wild). For those fears that remain after I have made them specific I ask myself the following: how likely is it to occur? Can I handle it (even though it may not be fun or easy)? Knowing in advance that I can handle whatever comes my way makes it a lot easier to move forward.

And another thing I like to tell myself is that "I wish I weren't scared, but I am, so suck it up and get on with it. It will be easier next time." In other words, sometimes I don't fight the fear. I work around it.

BTW you know you get my vote for making it all as fun as possible. I do believe that fun is really important.

]]> By: admin http://whenigrowupcoach.com/2009/04/14/tough-question-tuesday-installment-23/comment-page-1/#comment-2069 admin Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:08:41 +0000 http://whenigrowupcoach.com/blog/?p=789#comment-2069 And I'm gonna put this whole comment on a billboard! It'll have to be in small type though, so we'll have to put it in a place with a lot of foot traffic so drivers don't try to read it and have accidents. Honestly, truly, wholeheartedly Carolyn - thanks for the comment. Even though I know this fear is "normal" it's nice to hear it from someone with a firm head on her shoulders (& someone that's done a ton of "scary" things & have come up on top!). I like the visual of me driving with fear in the backseat, maybe sleeping or playing I Spy. I'm taking him along for the ride and we're having fun. We're buddies. We're pals. So instead of being fearful of the fear I'm going to be friendly towards it. Maybe invite it to a party or see if it wants to have a movie night. Get to know it, love it, and be a better person/coach/entrepreneur because of it. Isn't it cool when you take back the power? Yes. Yes it is. Thank the Lord that Luke married me despite my craziness. I'm tellin' ya. And I'm gonna put this whole comment on a billboard! It'll have to be in small type though, so we'll have to put it in a place with a lot of foot traffic so drivers don't try to read it and have accidents.

Honestly, truly, wholeheartedly Carolyn – thanks for the comment. Even though I know this fear is "normal" it's nice to hear it from someone with a firm head on her shoulders (& someone that's done a ton of "scary" things & have come up on top!). I like the visual of me driving with fear in the backseat, maybe sleeping or playing I Spy. I'm taking him along for the ride and we're having fun. We're buddies. We're pals.

So instead of being fearful of the fear I'm going to be friendly towards it. Maybe invite it to a party or see if it wants to have a movie night. Get to know it, love it, and be a better person/coach/entrepreneur because of it. Isn't it cool when you take back the power?

Yes. Yes it is.

Thank the Lord that Luke married me despite my craziness. I'm tellin' ya.

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